This Won't Happen for Me

This won’t happen for me

Do you have an underlying belief about your life or yourself that only applies to you? This belief doesn’t apply to your friends or loved ones, heck not even your co-workers or enemies. Just you!

“Why is it, that when it comes to others we truly believe “this will for sure happen for them” but when it comes to us, our selves it’s, “this won’t happen for me?””

Is this familiar, you’re scrolling twitter, watching a reels on IG, checking out tiktok and you see this amazing story. You know, the one that makes you genuinely happy for those on your screen but secretly causes you say “this won’t ever happen for me.” Why is that? Where does that come from?

I’d love to dig into the where and the why but well, I didn’t finish getting my Master’s in Counseling so I dare not begin to try and explain. Here is what I know. This won’t belief, is rooted is disbelief, unbelief, and out right doubt that will deter and already has deterred you from getting to your next this will. More than likely it’s the result of life’s many great disappointments that we were unsure how to process. Like I said, we aren’t going to run up this hill of why, instead. Let’s think about this, what is it?

This is not just becoming a millionaire, though I know we’d all accept that. This is specifically what you believe is best for your life. More importantly, it’s what you believe, fits within the boundaries of the road headed towards your life’s purpose. For me, that begins and ends with asking the Lord what my purpose is. From there it’s taking the time to listen and gather as He defines that for me, within the boundaries of His word.

Now as I work toward this purpose, His purpose I’m challenged because “this won’t happen for me” is a pervasive underlying thought/belief that appears true. It creeps in my mind at the most inopportune times. My life’s failures amplify this message louder than a cell phone alert for tornado warnings. Why is that? Why does this ring more true for me than actualizing my purpose? “Lord help my unbelief” is what comes to mind, but that still doesn’t answer why?

Today, I’m not sure I want to go down the windy road of why. (It seems why and I have broken up for this post) I travel the why road A LOT but, on this, my interest isn’t there. Why? pun intended Because I’m no longer interested in what won’t, I’m now solely focused on what will. To focus on the why of won’t will take me away from the what of will. Sounds crazy huh? I’m not saying the why is not important. What I am saying is, if I truly want to believe, This will happen for me then I need to focus on my part in executing the will. Take me down the road of why, while I’m executing the will. For me, this way, I’ll be so focused on the will, the revelation of the why won’t deter me.

Here’s what my part includes, as I lean in
• Challenging every won’t thought that enters my mind with a will thought
• Focusing on the small victories, ie noticing I had a won’t belief to begin with
• Focus on the process of reaching my purpose
• Not getting stuck in the mud that wants to delay me from my purpose

For me, all this in a nut shell means I have to lean in to my life with the Lord more. Align my focus to Him and be directed. When that focus and direction combine, I need to act, not pause but act. Rinse, Wash, Repeat….

This WILL happen for me

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